I had a friend who made a distinction between excuses and reasons. Reasons are real problems. Obstacles that have a way around them if we are willing to look. Excuses are the stories we tell ourselves to avoid looking for solutions.
There was a reason I struggled with last weeks posting. Anyone who read it can see that. But I didn’t use an excuse to avoid making the attempt. That’s writing. I’ve been working on my self talk about my writing. I started the blog on purpose, stepping out and being accountable about my writing.
Look what it’s gotten me! I have been writing once a week since August on the blog. I’ve made quite a few new on-line friends reading and commenting on their blogs. I’ve got a book at the publishers. Yes, occasionally I may produce a blog like last weeks. Generally though I’m a writer.
Now it’s time to take on some exercise and health projects. I’ve got long and deep excuses for not exercising, not taking care of myself and generally being a sedentary kind of gal. I’ve been thinking about doing something about this for a long while. I recognized on my trip to California that I’m not doing myself any favors.
My most recent, consistent excuse has been the weather. It’s scary to walk outside on the snow and ice, especially when you’ve spent the last 2 years in physical therapy from your last set of falls. Has anybody noticed me commenting on our unseasonable weather? We haven’t had snow and ice for almost a month. It’s time to step out.
I’ve enlisted Orion to help me. He’s not really keen on exercise either, but if I set him on his way out the door he’s game for anything. The nice thing about walking with Orion is that I move slower. When I walk with him I can go farther than when I walk on my own.
The first time I made him take a walk with me I packed a chair on the back of his wheelchair, just in case. One of my fears is that I’ll get out and not be able to get back. Turns out I made it a lot further than I thought I could! In part because we went slowly, but also just because I had that reassurance that I could stop if I needed to.
Getting out the door for a walk is pleasant, but it’s not always easy. The pollen count is high, the days are busy and sometimes there really isn’t time. On the other hand when we do go out I sleep better, feel better and eat a lot less. I even went out by myself when Orion was at his Dad’s on Sunday!
The third thing that really needs to happen is stepping out socially. It’s been two years since I kicked out my last husband and it’s time to come out of the cave. Because I have Orion in tow, this does get to be a little complicated. Often it’s just easier to stay home than to pack everything up and then deal with accessibility issues in a strange place. However, it needs to happen.
We had the opportunity to go to a CD release party last weekend. The venue was convenient and accessible. The crowd were mostly people we know and who adore Orion. It was going to be after dinner so maybe we could avoid eating the junk food. We had a blast! Orion is still talking about it to anyone who will listen. It was great to catch up with some of the folks we haven’t seen for months. The music was good too.
I’ve also signed us up for a couple of “meet-ups”. Local groups with a common interest. The one’s I signed up for are a tour of a local Hindu Temple and a discussion of Islamic women in art. Orion has a strong interest in East Indian culture (he speaks Hindi and Urdu). I have a strong interest in religion in culture. These meet-ups seemed like a good match for both of us.
So I’m stepping out. I may have Orion in tow, but he’s a fun and enthusiastic companion. How are you challenging yourself in the next months?